Since I was a little girl, I have wanted to adopt. My husband may not have shared the same interest during his childhood, but he's a major supporter of adoption now. We adopted our first son on August 29, 2016, and we hope to finalize the adoption of our second son on August 29, 2018.
That's quite truly the shortest version of our story that I could write: where we started and where we are now. Many adoptive parents have their own version of this 2- or 3- sentence story. It's what we tell to relatives we don't see very often, or friends we only meet at school reunions. The story is usually short, sweet, and does a fantastic job of telling our story without actually giving anything away.
I want to do more than that for you here.
As adoptive parents (APs) and their close friends and family know, our stories are epic dramas that would take way too much time to tell properly. So we dish them out, piece by piece, as our audience is ready for them. Sometimes it takes so long that we forget who we told which part of the story to. That's what I hope to do with this blog, and my hope is that it will work in tandem with the rest of this website to provide a look at the personal side of adoption.
There are two important caveats though: first, my sons' adoption stories are, at the heart of it, their own stories. It is my job as their parent to remember, protect, and pass down these stories to them. In the end, they will have to decide what to share and what not to share. Although there are some people with whom I share everything, those people are also giant figures in the lives of my children. As a parent, I reserve the right to leave out what may seem like important and/or interesting parts of their stories.
Second, my sons' stories are also the stories of their birth mothers. We are ridiculously lucky to have loving, warm, and safe birth mothers for both of our sons, and we hope to maintain their presence in our life for many years to come. I don't approve of birth-mother shaming, and you won't find any of it here. Not just because I know these women and still can't imagine how they found the strength to do what they did, but because it's just plain mean. If you're looking for a blog that's all about how much better a parent the writer is than the birth mother, look elsewhere. Enough said.
Well, with all of that out of the way, it seems that the only thing left to do is hit publish and start writing the next part of the story.
Until then, have a wonderful day!
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